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Why People Feel Empty When They Attain a Huge Goal 

When you set goals, you expect that you will be happy and smiling feeling like a rockstar because you have achieved them.  Sometimes, however, this doesn’t happen, and instead, you find that success brings emotions dumps.  Maybe you are wondering whether there is something wrong when you cross the finish line and it feels like someone took away your puppy.

Okay, there is nothing wrong with having that kind of emotional feeling, however, you need to know how to come out of it and get going.

Psychologically, when you set a goal, it gives a sense of order and direction.  It satisfies your natural desire to have something to do and you begin to feel good as you progress.  Also, a goal affects your sense of purpose and connection.  People assign positive attributes like curiosity, perseverance, independence, and independence to being engaged in something.

Something happens when the objectives you had set are achieved.  The connections and purpose you had before attaining the goals suddenly disappear after you reach the goals.  It’s like people fail to define themselves the way they did before after achieving their goals.  Suddenly, they have time that they don’t know how they are going to fill.  

So, what really happens?

 Our brains release a hormone known as dopamine that is associated with happiness and motivation in anticipation of reward.  When people plan for something and they know they are going to work for it, they set themselves in biological positives of feeling good.  Whenever they attain a milestone, they get another dopamine hit that makes them keep going with their job.  After reaching the goal, the release of dopamine by the body crashes down.  At this point, it is harder for individuals to biochemically have joy.  The anticipation of attaining a goal can make the body release soothing dopamine.  Sometimes we experience what is called the arrival fallacy.

When we are very sure that we will reach our goal, we can trick our brains into feeling like we have already crossed the finish line.  The work in front of us seems like it’s already done, and our dopamine begins to drop off.  When we eventually attain the goal, we may not feel as satisfying as we would expect.  Sometimes, we can start shifting our goals trying to find anything that would make use be happy.  This could result in disappointment, emptiness, and apathy.

It’s important that you mentor after achieving a big goal.  You need to share your insights too.  Taking time to identify yourself and be part of the goal is also crucial and will bring out that happiness you need when you attain your goal.

To learn more about how to achieve your goals and remain focused, you can contact Dream Achievers Unlimited.